[Note: Shared for #AutisticHistory archive purposes. This is NOT An Autistic Ally.]
Jenni Sutinen: You still don’t understand where you are at fault with your reasoning. Your whole premise is based on the fact that you, as parents, were arrogant enough to expect a “perfect child” and had already envisioned a future for him.
You saw your child as someone who would exist to live up to your expectations, and when you realized that things aren’t going to go as you had “planned”, you felt a devastation. Not because of any possible suffering your child might be going through, with being born to such an ego maniacal parents, but for YOURSELVES, how YOUR plans and dreams for your child wouldn’t be met.
When you decide to have a baby, you have to be ready to care for a disabled child, a chronically sick child, an autistic child, a Down’s Syndrome child etc etc. There are So so so many things that can happen during a baby’s development, that expecting some perfectly healthy and neurotypical child, is extremely arrogant.
Besides, NONE of the things that you mention as the “worst symptoms” of your autistic son, are actual symptoms of autism. They are however, symptoms of great trauma and distress.
You still don’t understand anything at all. You maybe now realise that there are many times of different autistic people, but that’s it. You still don’t understand and accept your firstborn autistic child.
You still don’t understand the very basics of autism, and what autistic traits are, and what behaviors are signs of distress, trauma, frustration and discomfort.
All of which your son has exhibited. And with parents with attitudes like yours, I’m not even surprised, horrified, but not surprised.
And if you had ACTUALLY listened to #actuallyautistic people, you could have gotten great advice on how to get your child to be and to sleep at night etc. But I guess it’s hard to hear us with your head so deep up in your own ass.
My heart breaks for your poor children.
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Autistic people have fought the inclusion of ABA in therapy for us since before Autism Speaks, and other non-Autistic-led autism organizations, started lobbying legislation to get it covered by insurances and Medicaid.
ABA is a myth originally sold to parents that it would keep their Autistic child out of an institution. Today, parents are told that with early intervention therapy their child will either be less Autistic or no longer Autistic by elementary school, and can be mainstreamed in typical education classes. ABA is very expensive to pay out of pocket. Essentially, Autism Speaks has justified the big price tag up front will offset the overall burden on resources for an Autistic’s lifetime. The recommendation for this therapy is 40 hours a week for children and toddlers.
The original study that showed the success rate of ABA to be at 50% has never been replicated. In fact, the study of ABA by United States Department of Defense was denounced as a failure. Not just once, but multiple times. Simply stated: ABA doesn’t work. In study after repeated study: ABA (conversion therapy) doesn’t work.
What more recent studies do show: Autistics who experienced ABA therapy are at high risk to develop PTSD and other lifelong trauma-related conditions. Historically, the autism organizations promoting ABA as a cure or solution have silenced Autistic advocates’ opposition. ABA is also known as gay conversion therapy.
The ‘cure’ for Autistics not born yet is the prevention of birth.
The ‘cure’ is a choice to terminate a pregnancy based on ‘autism risk.’ The cure is abortion. This is the same ‘cure’ society has for Down Syndrome.
This is eugenics 2021. Instead of killing Autistics and disabled children in gas chambers or ‘mercy killings’ like in Aktion T4, it’ll happen at the doctor’s office, quietly, one Autistic baby at a time. Different approaches yes, but still eugenics and the extinction of an entire minority group of people.
Fact: You can’t cure Autistics from being Autistic.
Fact: You can’t recover an Autistic from being Autistic.
Fact: You can groom an Autistic to mask and hide their traits. Somewhat. … however, this comes at the expense of the Autistic child, promotes Autistic Burnout (this should not be confused with typical burnout, Autistic Burnout can kill Autistics), and places the Autistic child at high risk for PTSD and other lifelong trauma-related conditions.
[Note: Autism is NOT a disease, but a neurodevelopmental difference and disability.]
Fact: Vaccines Do Not Cause Autism.