One of the main features of autism is the lack of a foreground/periphery differentiation. This is particularly noticeable in hearing, since we can become overwhelmed by background noises which we cannot filter out in order to focus on the foreground. For most people it is an automatic, natural thing to filter out the background and focus on what you want to hear—typically whoever is talking to you. However, people with autism get everything at once.

However, this is also true with vision. We are easily distracted by things in our peripheral vision, causing us to look around, glance at everything. This is easily taken as attention deficit, but what it is in fact is attention to too many things at once. At its worst, it can be overwhelming. And it’s at least annoying to anyone you’re speaking to, who is expecting you to look at them the entire time.

What…

So a gluten-sensitive friend of mine made a comment along the lines of “you always make drink recommendations with your cigars, do you have an gluten free recommendations?”

Actually yes I do. I myself tolerate gluten just fine (obvious as I drink copious amounts of beer and whiskeys of different kinds) but I know several people are in fact intolerant to gluten so I think it’s only fair I list some gluten-free options to enjoy with your cigars.

Of course, coffee goes without saying. For me, I love a nice breakfast blend/light roast coffee in the morning to go along with a mild/medium bodied cigar to get me into the day and awaken my palate. If I get the opportunity to have a lunch break cigar I’ll go with a darker roast coffee and something more toward the medium side of the spectrum without being too much. A nice espresso…

I’ve recently been a target of an attempt at bullying. I didn’t think this could happen to me, so I’m writing because I want to help others feel safer and stronger. I found my experience shocking as it is many, many years since I felt such visceral fear, though with the right support I saw it for what it was – a vindictive sham. Momentarily,  it had taken me back to when I was 11 years old and cornered in an underpass outside my school, outnumbered by a gang of girls primed to beat me up. I feel the most constructive way to deal with this is to speak out and share my thoughts on effective autistic self protection. 

I’ve known social disdain of a subtle kind all my life, from those who think themselves more socially sophisticated and who remain aloof. I stopped caring a very longtime ago, and sought more genuine interactions.

I’ve also known open hostility – yes of…